Knowing better about anxiety can be beneficial to helping those who are experiencing anxiety conditions. It is very normal for individuals to encounter anxiety. An unpleasant situation or the thought of something uneventful happening can cause one to tense up and stress about it.
It is quite a natural reaction but not everyone feels anxiety the same way as the others. It can be difficult to witness people you know and love experiencing anxiety and the thought of feeling helpless can make it harder for you to trigger your anxiety. Under such circumstances, how will you help those experiencing anxiety?
First and foremost, you need to understand that anxiety is a natural human sense that causes one to instinctively be prepared for anything about to happen. Though anxiety is a necessary feeling, with more and more people experiencing severe anxiety conditions, doctors have started to question its significance.
Experiencing anxiety is like a rolling snowball. The more you think and the more you stress about it, the more you stress the more you worry resulting in a state where their anxiety is reeling down. Though it can be both upsetting and frustrating, one needs to handle people having anxiety conditions with patience. The following points will help you deal with those having excessive anxiety conditions.
- Try to understand them
Anxiety is an intrinsic reaction. It has been in use since evolution for the purpose of sensing predators and danger. Even after so many years we are still wired to the ‘fight, flight or freeze’ response. For some these responses are quite dominant while some try to manage them efficiently.
Once you get to what causes people to be touchy or irritable, you will be able to be more understanding and compassionate to them. Pay attention to why they behave in such a way and avoid doing activities or putting them in situations that cause them to react.
- Show your support in accordance with their preference
Rather than assuming that the kind of treatment that you have in mind is better for them, ask what they would prefer and how they would like to be treated. Research has shown that some people have an avoidant attachment style. These people would prefer if the support offered to them were concrete and practical. Contrastingly some people prefer emotional support due to their fear of abandonment.
These observations suggest that the attachment style of each individual varies and thus providing tailor-made support can help your loved ones to get through this difficulty.
- Utilize their experiences in their anxiety
If your loved ones have insight into why they might be experiencing anxiety, use them to identify the recurring patterns. These can be helpful when they are fussy. Once you understand why they might be reacting the way they are, you will be able to manage both the person and the situation effectively. In cases, where they cannot find insight into their anxiety, encourage them to consult a mental health care professional as they are more efficient in identifying the triggers and compulsions that the person might be undergoing.
- Help you’re restless loved one temper their reasoning
The most ideal sort of help that you can offer is by instructing yourself about cognitive behavioral models of anxiety. Read books, and attend therapy sessions on the topic so that you can implement those techniques and thus be helpful for those experiencing anxiety. Anxious people are wired to assume that only the worst would happen. Reassure your loved ones by saying that it is not the case, however, be careful not overly reassure them. Let them know that whatever the case, they will overcome it efficiently.
- Offer help, however, don’t rule
Avoidance is one of the core features of anxiety. If you see your loved ones pulling away from you or staying aloof you can help them out by doing things they love so that they feel loved and included. Help them out but don’t promptly do things for them that they are supposed to do. For example, you can suggest they go meet a psychiatrist but don’t push them too much or take them without their willingness. Give them an option and let them choose.
- Try not to vilify those having serious nervousness issues
People experiencing such sort of mental disorders feel as if they are going crazy, therefore you find yourself constantly reassuring them and helping them understand that your perception of them has not changed. Be supportive as much as you can and help them stay connected to their life’s positive aspects. Encourage them to pursue their hobbies and interests more actively.
- Don’t lose yourself taking care of them
Realize that your goal is to help rhythm and provide all the necessary help that they might need. Do take on more than what you can do anxiety, so make sure that you do not fall into the trap that you are helping the other person come out from. One of the most efficient ways to cope with such situations is to do exercises. Go for a walk, take yoga classes, and set boundaries for yourself.
It is definitely not an easy task to help those suffering from anxiety, but always keep in mind that you are doing the best that you possibly can do. Task like these can help motivate yourself and having clear-headed thinking can help you better understand your loved one better and what they are going through.